Myth Busters

At Bexley, we are determined to dispel the myths surrounding fostering. We hope to put your mind at ease and alleviate any pressures you may feel before applying.

If you have any further questions, do not hesitate to contact us on 020 3045 4400 or email fostering@bexley.gov.uk

Myth

Fostering is only for married couples

Reality

Fostering is open to individuals and couples regardless of their marital status, sexual orientation, or gender identity. What matters most is that you are able to provide a safe and nurturing environment for the child.

Myth

Foster parents can only foster children of the same race or ethnicity

Reality

Foster parents can foster children of any race or ethnicity. It is important to be culturally sensitive and aware of the child's background, but the most important thing is providing a safe and loving home for the child.

Myth

Foster parents are only in it for the money

Reality

While foster parents receive financial support to help care for the child, most foster parents are motivated by a desire to make a difference in a child's life. It takes a lot of time, effort, and love to be a good foster parent.

Myth

Foster children are always difficult and have behavioural problems

Reality

Not all foster children have behavioural problems, and many children are in foster care due to circumstances beyond their control, such as abuse, neglect, or the death of a parent. With love and patience, foster children can thrive and overcome their difficulties.

Myth

Foster children will never be able to attach to their foster parents

Reality

Foster children are capable of forming strong attachments to their foster parents, and these relationships can be incredibly beneficial for the child's emotional well-being. Foster parents can provide a stable and loving home environment that can help the child to heal and grow.

Myth

Foster parents cannot discipline foster children

Reality

Foster parents are responsible for providing a safe and nurturing environment for the child, which includes setting boundaries and enforcing rules. However, it is important to work with the child's social worker and other professionals to ensure that discipline is appropriate and in line with the child's needs.

Myth

Foster parents are not allowed to have biological children while fostering

Reality

Foster parents are allowed to have biological children while fostering, but it is important to consider the impact that fostering may have on the family dynamic. It is also important to ensure that all children in the home receive the attention and care that they need.

Myth

Foster parents cannot adopt the children they are fostering

Reality

Foster parents may be able to adopt the children they are fostering if it is in the best interest of the child and if they meet the adoption requirements. Adoption is a lifelong commitment, and it should only be pursued if the foster parents are ready and able to provide a permanent home for the child.

Myth

Foster children always return to their biological parents

Reality

While the goal of foster care is typically to reunify children with their biological families, this is not always possible or in the best interest of the child. Foster parents may be asked to consider becoming an adoptive family if reunification is not possible.

Myth

Foster parents have no say in the child's life

Reality

Foster parents play an important role in the child's life and are responsible for making decisions about their daily care and well-being. However, it is important to work with the child's social worker and other professionals to ensure that all decisions are in the best interest of the child.